Unlocking a better life with compassionate self-awareness

Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

4 Top Reasons Your Partner Fails to See Your Efforts — And How to Fix Them

Feeling unappreciated for your efforts in a relationship can create tension and disconnection, but it’s a common dynamic that can be addressed with understanding and communication. Misaligned expectations, unspoken needs for recognition, and missed opportunities to share positives often lie at the root of the issue. By identifying these patterns and working together to clarify roles, express appreciation, and nurture positivity, couples can transform frustration into deeper connection and mutual care.

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

You Are Not Overreacting — Here’s Why

Ever been told you're overreacting? This article challenges that label, exploring how our emotions often make sense when viewed through a broader lens. By shifting perspective and understanding deeper triggers, we can find empathy for ourselves and others. Discover how framing transforms 'overreaction' into a meaningful response

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

Cultivating Connection: The Hows & Whys of Nurturing Personal Relationships

Balancing daily demands often pushes relationships to the sidelines, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and disconnection. It’s crucial to nurture these connections, even with simple gestures like a quick call or message, as well as dedicating time to be together. By investing in relationships, you enrich your life with joy, support, and a sense of belonging, enhancing both emotional and physical well-being.

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

Is Your Current Partner a Keeper?

Fundamental to all healthy intimate relationships is feeling emotionally safe and secure. Learn about how to assess how well your partner meets these needs for you.

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

Getting Comfortable in Your Own Skin

When you feel negatively toward yourself, healing involves developing compassionate self-awareness and, ultimately, self-acceptance.

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

What Being Afraid Means About You

Everyone is afraid sometimes. Learn to respond to it by developing compassionate self-awareness, a skill that can help you nurture self-compassion and feel good about yourself while deciding how best to handle your fear.

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

For Couples: When Good Intentions Go Wrong

Good intentions by a partner in a couple can lead to conflict and feelings of rejection. Developing self-awareness and curiosity can help repair the relationship by nurturing empathy and compassion.

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

Is self-love a prerequisite for loving another person?

Love is a multifaceted experience. Our ability to accept and give love fluctuates over time and with different experiences. So how do we learn to love ourselves and others better, as well as cope with setbacks such as rejection?

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

How to Heal from Rejection Sensitivity

Rejection sensitivity can be difficult to live with. Using the framework of attachment theory, learn how to cope in healthy ways with rejection.

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

Moving Toward Resilience from Anxious Attachment

Do you ever wonder why you are so insecure, even when you don’t think you have a good reason to be? This general sense of insecurity is likely an expression of anxious attachment.

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