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Making Change
A psychologist provides guidelines to help individuals define their best pathways to change
By Leslie Becker-Phelps, Ph.D.

Posts are for general education purposes only. They should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional assistance.


December 12, 2021

No one likes rejection. Even when you have the wisdom to see that it provides an opportunity for growth, you won’t like being rejected. But there is a difference between not liking it and feeling devastated by it. Unfortunately, rejection-sensitive people tend to see it everywhere, and for them, the impact is big—making it difficult…

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November 15, 2021

Do you feel alone even though you have supportive family and friends? Are you unable to feel their love to comfort and encourage you unless you are physically with them? If you struggle with this dilemma, you might find it helpful to know that you can strengthen your ability to feel supported even when they are physically halfway around the world.

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October 25, 2021

When someone is so angry or upset that they cannot listen to anything you have to say, it’s likely time to stop trying to counter their arguments. But it’s still important to assert yourself. So then what? How can you turn their tirade into a conversation?

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October 5, 2021

I recently joined the increasing ranks of those affected by natural disasters when my house was flooded by the remnants of Hurricane Ida. But even those who have not been victims of natural disasters have often had to cope with other kinds of catastrophes, such as financial devastation, serious medical illness, or the ruinous end of a long-term relationship…

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September 27, 2021

Feeling extremely unhappy can make anyone see the world through gray-tinted glasses. It darkens your view of what’s going on in any moment, causing you to be negative and pessimistic and to feel miserable. Unable to see light or happiness anywhere you look, you might assume that you actually want to feel unhappy. But there is another way…

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October 12, 2020

With fears of COVID-19, high levels of political unrest, and economic struggles, society has been exploding with anger. You can see it in public demonstrations, personal interactions, and social media. Unfortunately, each flare-up often ignites further anger…

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September 14, 2020

You feel like you might crack under the weight of life’s stresses. It’s overwhelming and has caused you to question yourself and even be self-critical. Once your mind begins the downward spiral of viewing yourself harshly, it’s hard to pull your thinking back to a more positive direction. But…

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August 17, 2020

“Why is this happening to me?” This thinking is like a one-two punch that can knock you down when you are already feeling hit hard by life. The intent of these questions is often to reduce your pain by making sense of your situation. It’s based on an often-unconscious belief that by making the world predictable, you can protect yourself…

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July 24, 2020

You feel broken. It’s not just that you have weaknesses, but rather that you feel you are essentially flawed, deficient, and a failure as a person. The suffering this causes is deeper than words. You can feel “in your bones” that you are different from—and lesser than—other people.

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